the work:

Accessing the yearning of our heart's desire is courageous, transformational work.

When we are willing to be changed, all we need to do is get out of our own way and say YES. Yet for many of us this struggle is often at the root of our deepest suffering. Saying yes looks different for each of us, and is a constant process of evolution. Sometimes we must say yes to our pain, or yes to our resistance...sometimes we have to fully say yes to our NO...or yes to our doubt, yes to our pleasure, yes to our rage, yes to our power, yes to our vulnerability,

Yes to that wild impulse toward Life that still tears us open. 

To say yes to life we must practice allowing the depth of the present moment to penetrate our hearts and open us to the pleasures of life.

When we cultivate and build the muscle of a non-shaming heart, we gain access to our deepest healing. When we are willing to open our hearts not just to our beauty and power, but to those dark and ugly corners lurking in the shadows of our goodness, if we can shine the light of curiosity instead of shame, we step into our most authentic selves. The Self beyond the veil of ego and story. If we are willing to know these parts of ourselves, we create space for true healing and begin the process of repatterning our reality.

 When we do the work to consider our cultural bias, to own and acknowledge our perceptual filters and the impact they've had on our capacity to see one another, we become a catalyst for healing in a profound and humble way. To be willing to look at the parts of ourselves who may be unconsciously participating in systemic oppression, to acknowledge and understand these parts for what they are and without shame— is to disempower them from causing us to unwittingly perpetuate harm in our world. 

We cannot change the world if we are not willing to change ourselves. We cannot call the world and it's power structures into balance from a place of imbalance.  

We cannot heal the world from within our pain. To change the world is to embody change. 


This work is demanding and powerful. It requires a deep willingness to create change in yourself. This process is profound and revelatory and confrontational; there is no way back to the old self once we’re broken open into our deeper truth. For most of us, this work confronts us with pain and fear and many of the wounds we've built our lives avoiding.

But when we’re willing to feel those feelings—the ones we’re most afraid to feel—we emancipate all that energy we’ve kept knotted up around them. The freedom that rushes through the system when this happens is an experience of true ecstasy and deep authenticity. On the other side of all that holding is an ocean of vitality and pleasure.

If you’ve found your way to my site and are taking the time to read this, perhaps you are ready to sincerely commit yourself to your healing. This work is not about pathologizing your experience or implementing some “modality” onto you that will result in your being “healed.” As a Radical Aliveness Practitioner, it is not my job to heal you. The only one who knows you, who understands your culture of origin, the perceptual filters of your childhood, the nuance of trauma and hurt—is you. Therefore, the only one who can truly navigate your journey is you. If you choose to work with me, you will be supported and empowered to step into your own process of becoming—to take responsibility for your own healing so that you’re able to show up for yourself fully, radically and honestly regardless of the external conditions of your life. We will collaborate on a unique and entirely custom integrative plan based on your particular desires.  

Here are just a few of the things my clients come to work on:

  • Accessing or reconnecting to creativity

  • Embodying creative expression

  • Returning to their body and sense of self after child birth or other intense physical transformation

  • Reconnecting to authentic sexuality and pleasure

  • Nourishing self-care practices for activists or those working in intensely depleting environments

  • Embodied motherhood

  • Healing physical and sexual trauma

  • Pleasure therapy

  • Sexual autonomy

  • Spiritual deepening to divine feminine via deep nature connection

  • Relationship dynamics: reigniting the masculine/feminine polarity

Perhaps one of these topics resonates with you. Or maybe you’re just not sure what this deeper yearning in your heart is all about but you want to make more space to listen to it. Whatever your impulse, this work can meet you where you’re at. My job is to support and empower you to take responsibility for your own healing. This means we work at your pace, on your desires, in your own way. I incorporate a myriad of modalities--pulling from my own work with the Radical Aliveness Institute, Core Energetics, Bio-Energetics, Deep Nature Connection, Tantric (Sri Vidya) and Kundalini yoga, poetry, dance, creative consulting and counseling. My work with clients is highly adaptive and highly creative. Whatever you are facing or desiring in your life, we will enliven, embrace and tackle in co-created collaboration.

  

I am currently taking new clients and offering free consultations to discuss the nature of this work more in depth. If you have questions or would like to set up a call, please email me at Mary@feraling.com.